Did you read the rest of the sentence you shared? He’s saying that you can’t simply stop at “yeah, men can be tiresome.” You can’t assume men are simply misbehaving women. I think that’s a wonderful point and not saying what you seen to think it’s saying.
Did you read the rest of the sentence you shared? He’s saying that you can’t simply stop at “yeah, men can be tiresome.” You can’t assume men are simply misbehaving women. I think that’s a wonderful point and not saying what you seen to think it’s saying.
Thank you for your remarks. I will just state my default position. I understand his is to make assumptions and generalizations about people based on their gender. There is some use for that but that usefulness is very limited.
EX: Men are physically stronger than women - Generally true enough to be taken as default.
However, one runs into trouble going as far as to generalize intelligence, sense of humor, talent, intentions and or how tiresome or emotionally maladaptive a particular gender is in general. Those and many other things about people transcend their gender and really are irrelevant to whether or not one is dealing with a man or a woman.
It is degrading to men to just default to saying you might as well get used to dealing with a "tiresome" person if you're dealing with men.
By the same token, it is also degrading to women to default to saying they are "emotionally maladaptive" - which, by the way, contradicts his earlier statement generalizing women by default as being helpful and empathetic.
I just don't care for the authors vast generalizations and how he flip-flops on those and even contradicts himself. Are women generally emotionally maladaptive or are they empathetic and helpful? We can't ask him because he's claimed both in the same writing and can't make up his mind which model he wants to go with - but these questions are really just a consequence of the bigger problem and cannot be answered properly anyway.
That main problem starts with the fact that I don't hold value in default generalizations. Default generalizations were used here in an attempt to characterize both genders this way and that way and the other. One person isn't the sole spokesperson qualified to speak on behalf of all women and all men nor to apply sweeping generalizations to them as if they are facts for all of them.
Did you read the rest of the sentence you shared? He’s saying that you can’t simply stop at “yeah, men can be tiresome.” You can’t assume men are simply misbehaving women. I think that’s a wonderful point and not saying what you seen to think it’s saying.
Thank you for your remarks. I will just state my default position. I understand his is to make assumptions and generalizations about people based on their gender. There is some use for that but that usefulness is very limited.
EX: Men are physically stronger than women - Generally true enough to be taken as default.
However, one runs into trouble going as far as to generalize intelligence, sense of humor, talent, intentions and or how tiresome or emotionally maladaptive a particular gender is in general. Those and many other things about people transcend their gender and really are irrelevant to whether or not one is dealing with a man or a woman.
It is degrading to men to just default to saying you might as well get used to dealing with a "tiresome" person if you're dealing with men.
By the same token, it is also degrading to women to default to saying they are "emotionally maladaptive" - which, by the way, contradicts his earlier statement generalizing women by default as being helpful and empathetic.
I just don't care for the authors vast generalizations and how he flip-flops on those and even contradicts himself. Are women generally emotionally maladaptive or are they empathetic and helpful? We can't ask him because he's claimed both in the same writing and can't make up his mind which model he wants to go with - but these questions are really just a consequence of the bigger problem and cannot be answered properly anyway.
That main problem starts with the fact that I don't hold value in default generalizations. Default generalizations were used here in an attempt to characterize both genders this way and that way and the other. One person isn't the sole spokesperson qualified to speak on behalf of all women and all men nor to apply sweeping generalizations to them as if they are facts for all of them.